Would you love for a new perspective on in laws – A positive one?
If you, as a daughter-in-law, find the above question interesting, then no doubt you are looking for a paradigm shift in your in-laws’ stance towards you, far off the institute of patriarchy; for peace to be ensconced in your life. Ready for a detailed read?
A New Perspective On In Laws That Every DIL Aspire For!
Often the term “in-laws” is shrouded with enough negativity, differences, and spiteful instances.
Shouldn’t this head towards a change?
As a value-seeking daughter-in-law looking for a positive change, I have constructed this blog that could make in-laws highly regarded in the future in our society.
In the world that is transient, anything could change. And so is the stigma attached to the term “in-laws” with the coming together of positive minds.
Check out how with a tweak in mindset, in-laws could become all the more cherishable and a source of joy for all the daughters-in-law out there!
| 1) In-Laws Should View Their DILS As Their Own Daughters |
| 2) When In-Laws Shed Their Valuable Tag, “in Laws”, They Could Treat Their Dils Politely, Without Any Arrogance – A New Perspective On In Laws |
| 3) Let In-Laws Aid The Relationship Growth Of Their Son And DILS |
| 4) Let In-Laws Be Hospitable Enough With Their DILS’ Parents |
| 5) In-Laws Should Stop Making Their DILS Liable For Everything In The Family |
| 6) In-Laws Should Provide Importance To The Space Of Their DILS |
| 7) Let In-Laws Make Their DILS Feel Inclusive And Secure |
| 8) In-Laws Should Welcome Their DILS’ Parents Home Wholeheartedly |
| 9) In Laws Should Encourage Their DILS On Their Career Development |
| 10) In-Laws Should Be Knowing The Importance Of Their DILS’ Personal Space |
| 11) In-Laws Should Focus On The Well-Being Of Their Son & Dils, Instead Of Growing Competitive, Intrusive, And Jealous |
| 12) In Laws Should Be As Adjustable As They Expect Their DILS To Be – A Major Sign Of A Healthy Family |
| 13) In Laws Should Understand The Emotions Of Their DILS TOO |
| 14) In Laws Should Understand The Financial Situation Of Their DILS’ Parents – A New Perspective On In Laws |
| 15) In Laws Should Refrain From Imposing Things On Their DILS |
| 16) In Laws Cannot Expect Their DILS To Comply With Their Mindset And Requirements |
| 17) In Laws Should Behave Mindfully With Their DILS |
| 18) In Laws Should Build A Good Equation With Their Son And DILS |
| 19) In Laws Should Maintain Boundaries With Their Son And DILS |
| 20) In Laws Should Be Kind Enough And Hospitable With Their DILS |
| 21) In Laws Should Work On Building A Healthy Family |
| 22) In-Laws Should Be Fair With Both Their Son And DILS |
| 23) In Laws Should Respect The Decisions Of Their Son And DILS |
| 24) In-Laws Should Not Trigger Approval Seeking Behaviour In Their DILS |
| 25) In Laws Shouldn’t Torment Their DILS In The Name Of Conception |
| 26) In Laws Should Stop Comparing Their DILS To Their Own Daughters |
| 27) In Laws Should Stop Complaining Their DILS |
| 28) In Laws Should Stop Bad Mouthing Their DILS |
| 29) Let In-Laws See Their DILS As Significant Members Of Their Families |
| 30) In Laws Shouldn’t See Any Problem If DILS Want To Take Care Of Their Parents As Well |
| 31) In Laws Could Say A Lot Of Nice Things To Their DILS |
| 32) In Laws Should Not Stop Their DILS From Visiting Their Parents |
| 33) In Laws Should Motivate Their DILS To Support Their Parents Financially |
Come, let’s get on to the details!
1) In-Laws Should View Their DILS As Their Own Daughters
Let’s say you are a woman who is recently married. Considering that your in-laws don’t have any daughters, wouldn’t you feel great to receive all the love of your mother-in-law, assuming she celebrates you as her own daughter?
When such things become a norm otherwise i.e. even in the presence of their own daughters, the situation would turn more lovable.
Don’t you think this would provide the DILS enough reasons to cherish their in-laws?
When this society expects daughters-in-law to call their mothers-in-law as their mothers, why don’t the MILS take after such a priceless title and stay approachable to their DILS?
In Laws Should Treat And Celebrate Their DILS As Their Own Daughters
If MILS genuinely look at their DILS as their own daughters, a lot of problems and disputes in the families will evaporate. And that would make the family environment all the more appealing!
Also Read:: 18 Overlooked Problems Of Daughters In Law You Must Know
2) When In-Laws Shed Their Valuable Tag, “in Laws”, They Could Treat Their Dils Politely, Without Any Arrogance – A New Perspective On In Laws
Superiority and patriarchy comes naturally with the term “in-laws”, the very reason why most in-laws treat their daughters-in-law in a condescending manner.
Shouldn’t in-laws turn broad-minded and shed such negative traits? Don’t you think they should exercise their rights over their DILS instead of showing their authority?
When such a transformation happens, things would turn a lot lighter and comfortable in the family environment making it conducive to positivity and happiness. Wouldn’t that be amazing?
Also Read :: How to deal with arrogant in laws?
3) Let In-Laws Aid The Relationship Growth Of Their Son And DILS
In India, most in-laws create a difficult life for their DILS via their undue restrictions and stereotypes.
Most in-laws, under the influence of patriarchy, tend to make situations worse for the daughters-in-law.
The misted glasses they invisibly wear, judging their DILS for reasons petty, unknowingly complicate the relationship the latter share with their spouse. How?
Possibly, in-laws would stain the minds of their son against their DILS OR challenge the relationship shared by their son and DILS with more obstacles.
If in-laws have an eye of aversion towards their DILS, then why in the first place did they get their son married? Is that even fair?
Rather In-laws could arrange a surprise vacation for their son and DILS.
OR they could plan a surprise anniversary party for them.
There are a zillion ways for them to aid the marriage life of their son and DILS. But only when they are mature enough to understand their flaws, they could work on bringing closer their son and DILS.
In Laws At Any Cost Should Avoid Creating Rifts Between Their Son And DILS
One of the aspects that in-laws fail to notice is the kind of harm they would inflict upon their DILS by trying to deviate their son against their wives.
Which family is rid of problems and differences? Why do in-laws make a big deal out of them?
“Your wife spoke to me arrogantly when you were away”
“Your wife doesn’t do any work. If she continues doing this, let her go to her house. I will not entertain all this”
Don’t you see how mindless in-laws are in this case? Why don’t in-laws clear their differences directly with their DILS? Even if they want to use their son as a mediator, shouldn’t they choose to be mindful considering the well-being of the latter’s marriage life?
In case the sons approach their parents for advice on their differences with their wives, in-laws should be in a position to solve their problems wisely; I am sure that would facilitate an even better path for their son’s marriage life. No gaslighting approach should be taken by the in-laws in such cases.
4) Let In-Laws Be Hospitable Enough With Their DILS’ Parents
One of the most common problems in the society is the way DILS’ parents are treated by their counterparts.
“If your daughter is not willing to stay with us, let her be wherever she wants to be”
“We drink only strong coffee. The amount of decoction you mixed is very less. Please don’t repeat it again”
“Ask your daughter to quit her job. She has to look after her child”
“Your daughter doesn’t cook well enough”
“We are a man’s parents. We decide the rules and regulations”
Does giving a daughter in marriage mean parents are liable to their son-in-laws’ parents?
By expecting them to stay subservient and fulfill the requirements of their daughters’ marital family, are men’s parents taking the moral path?
On an egalitarian and humanitarian ground, shouldn’t society like ours, bring such practices to a forced stop?
In Laws Should Treat Their DILS’ Parents With Due Respect
The very reason why people today still refuse to parent girl children is the kind of reception that society gives them.
Female foeticide is still an issue in so many places in our country – Only when the society is ready to refine its maligned mindset, such a situation would change.
Let a woman’s parents experience the pride of being the former’s parents; let them walk with their heads held high all the time; let them be treated respectfully by the in-laws of their daughters; let all the chauvinism that pervades the society go to dust. Let’s make this world an equal space for everyone, especially women and their parents!
I hope the day isn’t far!
5) In-Laws Should Stop Making Their DILS Liable For Everything In The Family
In the present scenario, most in-laws treat their daughters-in-law as mere house-helps and take them for granted.
“My DIL will take care of the cooking”
“Please wash the clothes tomorrow”
“Take your FIL for check-up on saturday”
“Why didn’t you give your spouse’s shirt for laundry? Look how frustrated he is. He has an important meeting at the office. Shouldn’t you be more responsible?”
“Your aunt will not prefer brinjal, so better prepare capsicum for her”
“What are you doing inside the room? Come and help me with cleaning”
Why do in-laws forget that their DILS are human beings too? Why are they looked down at, as though DILS are destined to face all the crap?
In Laws Should Be Supportive Of Their DILS
On the contrary, read these –
“Your wife must be tired after a hectic day today. Why don’t you cook for her tomorrow?” – When in-laws encourage their son to be like this, it will make men equally responsible on the domestic front.
“I will help you with this so that you could start your office work early” – When MILS lend their hands for help to their DILS, it will give more breathing space to the DILS in their marital homes. Don’t you think so?
A family becomes healthier when every member comes together to share house-hold duties, instead of just making the DILS responsible for everything. Don’t you think this is a new perspective on in laws?
When in-laws volunteer to help their DILS, be it clothes-folding, cooking to taking care of their grandchildren, wouldn’t that be great?
That way, don’t you think a lot of DILS’ pressure on a day to day basis would see a decline?
Also Read:: 29 Sincere Expectations from an Indian daughter in law
6) In-Laws Should Provide Importance To The Space Of Their DILS
Differences are bound to exist in a joint family but should it be allowed to take a wrong direction and hit the dead-end?
Don’t you think DILS should be allowed to make their own decisions?
Let’s say your in-laws don’t like you making important decisions related to your child but fortunately you happen to be confident of your stance.
If this seemingly triggers your in-laws’ wrath, wouldn’t that cause undue conflicts in the family? That said, shouldn’t in-laws turn out to be more broad-minded and let things be as they are?
In-Laws Should Avoid Creating Hostility In The Family
One of the common yet least discussed problems of daughters-in-law is the kind of hostility that most in-laws unintentionally create for them.
Let’s say you are planning to make rasam while your MIL is not happy about it. She kind of shows dissent indirectly. Wouldn’t that impact you mentally?
Wouldn’t such unfriendly situations encourage DILS to retreat to their shells?
No doubt, such practices would act as a deterrent to most women discouraging them to stand up for themselves even in places where necessary; Unequivocally, this shouldn’t be the case. And society should have a major bunch of assertive DILS. What do you think?
7) Let In-Laws Make Their DILS Feel Inclusive And Secure
In-laws should treat their DILS in such a way that the latter would feel free and feel as one in their families like the following –
“I am a part of this family”
“I have every right over my in-laws. They are my parents too”
“No matter what, I am sure my in-laws will take care of me”
Let in-laws make their DILS feel inclusive and provide them their space to go about their lives. After all, DILS are their family too – Let them REALIZE it!
8) In-Laws Should Welcome Their DILS’ Parents Home Wholeheartedly
Usually there is an unknown apprehension in the DILS when they invite their parents home in the presence of their in-laws.
Some in-laws might not prefer their DILS’ parents visiting their home.
Some in-laws might not treat their DILS’ parents with enough warmth and respect.
Some in-laws might complain about their DILS to their parents.
Some in-laws might make situations more complicated for the DILS to balance between their in-laws and parents. Isn’t that pitiable?
In-Laws Should Facilitate A Stable And Friendly Environment For Their DILS’ Parents – H4
That is why it is important for in-laws to set up a friendly environment for the DILS and their parents.
Let In-Laws Also Visit Their Counterparts Without Any Reservations
The same should be the case when in-laws visit their counterparts. The former should share friendly ties with the latter without creating awkward situations.
Just imagine both the elderly couples sharing a good time with one another; DILS and their spouse hosting them without any inhibitions. Wouldn’t that feel great?
9) In Laws Should Encourage Their DILS On Their Career Development
Women these days are increasingly focussed on creating a career for themselves though under a strain of obstacles in the form of their in-laws.
What happens is, in some cases, in-laws seemingly don’t value the importance of their DILS’ financial independence. Let me support my point with an example.
One of my acquaintances, a lady, is such a career-centric person that she would even hesitate to ask for money from her spouse and in-laws. Such was her stance on being independent monetarily.
Unfortunately, her in-laws’ prejudice stopped her from pursuing her career midway that now she is a full-time stay at home mother.
Of course, it is the duty of both the husband and wife to take care of their children but not at the cost of the latter quitting her career.
So instead of in-laws playing a spoilsport to their DILS’ career, how about them becoming more mature, aiding their DILS’ career trajectory? Don’t you think this a new perspective on in laws?
10) In-Laws Should Be Knowing The Importance Of Their DILS’ Personal Space
Are daughters-in-law just meant to look after their in-laws’ requirements?
Should they jump in like a saviour god to address/serve every summon of their in-laws?
Let’s say you are a working DIL and you are attending an important meeting. Suddenly you hear your MIL at the door who keeps banging it, apparent enough for your manager to hear. Wouldn’t that be an intrusion? Anyway, you choose to ignore her for the time-being.
The reason you hear from her later is that she wanted you to help her with laddu-preparation. Wouldn’t that be annoying enough to you?
Now, how would you deal with such a situation?
Shouldn’t in-laws know the value of their DILS’ time and personal space?
When every DIL manages to handle both domestic and official responsibilities, shouldn’t in-laws be empathising enough of their DILS’ situation?
11) In-Laws Should Focus On The Well-Being Of Their Son & Dils, Instead Of Growing Competitive, Intrusive, And Jealous
If DILS are posed with arrogant or jealous in-laws, they are sure to face some road-blocks in their marriage life, especially if they live under the same roof.
Let’s say you inform your MIL that you and your spouse have planned a vacation to Panchagni. Hearing that your MIL shows a poker-face and plan a trip with your FIL on the same days you are going. Isn’t that indicative of her jealousy and competitiveness?
Or how about your MIL deciding to join you both? Wouldn’t that be intrusive and disrespectful of your relationship privacy?
On the other hand, if your in-laws well-receive your information and encourage you to go on with your plans, it would show their genuineness. Typically, in-laws should aspire for their children’s well-being above all the differences they might have towards the latter.
12) In Laws Should Be As Adjustable As They Expect Their DILS To Be – A Major Sign Of A Healthy Family
Most Indian In-laws expect their DILS to be ideal women – Right from taking care of domestic chores to being subservient to their in-laws, they are expected to nod their head to everything their in-laws say.
Even a single behaviour OR word uttered against their in-laws would be considered an offense, that DILS are forced to shun their assertiveness in most cases; forced to think that standing up for themselves is wrong.
Why does society expect such unfair things from married women?
For a positive transformation, why don’t in-laws make it a point to adjust with their DILS as well? After all, a family signifies sharing responsibilities and making adjustments as a whole, isn’t it?
13) In Laws Should Understand The Emotions Of Their DILS TOO
One of the common yet unintentional mistakes that most in-laws make is their failure to understand the emotions of their DILS.
DILS are mere human beings who have their own emotions – Having left their parents place with a heavy heart, holding on to their home-sickness all the time at their marital homes, trying to adapt every inch to their in-laws’ practices and traditions, fighting the societal stereotypes and what not, they face a hard time emotionally.
Yet all the pain and struggles they undergo, go completely unnoticed.
On the contrary, a little forgetfulness of them to have not refilled the salt container would be enlarged and criticised by their in-laws.
I have just one thing to say here – Where the world is empathetic and sympathizing, a lot of effort would go over being cordial in relationships – Shouldn’t in-laws realize this fact? And you know, when they do, never would a DILS-in-laws relationship face a myriad problems like they always do. Don’t you think this is a new perspective on in-laws?
14) In Laws Should Understand The Financial Situation Of Their DILS’ Parents – A New Perspective On In Laws
This is the kind of approach that most Indian in-laws take towards their DILS’ parents –
“We expect you to give at least 100 sovereigns of gold for our DIL”
“My daughter does not like such less-expensive sarees. Come, let me help you with better ones”
“Send so & so gifts for diwali. As womens’ parents, you have got to keep up with the traditions”
Isn’t that cruel? Shouldn’t the dowry system and unfair demands put forth by men’s parents come to an end?
In Laws Should Stop Demanding Things From Their DILS’ Parents
Are womens’ parents money-generating machines? Shouldn’t society realize this and stop making impractical demands like these?
Let us all move towards a time where a woman’s parents wouldn’t have to worry about their daughters’ marriage and its expenses! What do you think?
15) In Laws Should Refrain From Imposing Things On Their DILS
In the current times, women are as competent as men are, making formidable achievements in the external space.
Still the way they are making an establishment for themselves is undervalued and intimidated by society. Isn’t that unfair?
“My son will not prefer brinjal for rotis, make aloo for him”
“Make some pancakes for the guests”
“Take leave on friday. You have to make arrangements for the function”
“Prepare so & so for dinner”
As though DILS are their house-maids, most in-laws beckon them and impose undue things on them.
Are they the games and plays in-laws could control with their joysticks – No, isn’t it?
In Laws Should Treat Their DILS With Due Respect
Just because they are daughters-in-law, women cannot be degraded.
As human beings, they deserve their due share of respect from everyone around.
Let us all head towards times where DILS are treated as equals with enough respect!
16) In Laws Cannot Expect Their DILS To Comply With Their Mindset And Requirements
In-laws’ general mindset issues significantly impact the DILS and their lives. Are you wondering how?
Consider your in-laws are basically very active and do not rely on house maids for cleaning purposes.
You, on the other hand, are not used to such practices as in your place, your parents sought outside help for household chores.
Here, the problem for you arises when your in-laws expect you to take charge of all the responsibilities the way they do – Meaning, you are expected to do all domestic chores by yourself when you are actually not used to it.
As you oppose, you only receive their flak. I could give you many examples on this front if you want to. But do you understand what I mean by mindset issues?
It’s the wired mindset of the in-laws that expects the DILS to follow their footprints. A small deviation from the norm forces the latter to harsh results.
I strongly feel this has to change – DILS being individuals would have their own preferences and shortcomings. In-laws need to respect this fact and give their DILS enough space for them to go about things.
Isn’t that a new perspective on in laws?
17) In Laws Should Behave Mindfully With Their DILS
Society stipulates that DILS should be respectful of their in-laws, talk mindfully with them, and whatnot. But why doesn’t the same apply to in-laws?
When DILS stand up for themselves, they are termed, “Arrogant”. They are demeaned; their upbringing and character is questioned.
But do in-laws stay mindful in their approach towards their DILS?
“We received some better proposals for our son before yours”
“Can’t your parents remain without seeing you?”
“We don’t follow such strange practices as in your house, here”
If you hear these statements from your in-laws, how would you feel?
If this is not mindless, then what is?
Do in-laws assume the RIGHT of lashing out at their DILS as they desire just because they are DILS?
Shouldn’t society be ashamed of encouraging such lame talks?
So all that I seek from in-laws would be a little amount of mindfulness when they deal with their DILS. Is that too much to ask for?
18) In Laws Should Build A Good Equation With Their Son And DILS
Most problems between DILS and MILS could be warded off if the latter is ready to take a friendly approach towards their son and DILS.
By quitting the high-handedness attached to the tag “MIL”, a lot could change in the relationship that MILS share with their son and DILS; a good bonding would be allowed to blossom. Wouldn’t that be marvellous?
19) In Laws Should Maintain Boundaries With Their Son And DILS
Mothers should understand that their relationship equation with their son changes largely after the latter’s marriage.
The entry of their DILS into their son’s lives would for sure transform a lot of things in the lives of these mothers.
I know it is hard for them to deal with such a huge change suddenly, but at any cost, they should never perceive it negatively; for it would manifest in ways impacting the marriage life of their son and DILS.
When in-laws start recognizing and respecting the boundaries they share with their son after their marriage, it would do well for both of them in a lot of ways.
20) In Laws Should Be Kind Enough And Hospitable With Their DILS
I do understand that every human being’s nature is different. But courtesy is common for all.
That is why, it is important for in-laws to acknowledge the new members of their families, their DILS and facilitate them a hospitable environment.
To provide clarity, let’s say you are a newly married DIL. Already, you don’t feel comfortable with your in-laws. And on top of it all, they don’t treat you well. They make you feel unwelcome and facilitate a hostile ambiance. Wouldn’t that be daunting enough for you to handle?
That is why family spaces should make DILS feel delighted and blessed!
21) In Laws Should Work On Building A Healthy Family
As elders of the family, shouldn’t in-laws focus on creating a healthy family?
Be it the way they handle situations in the family, take care of home responsibilities, and the way they act as a guiding light for their son and DILS, shouldn’t they be an inspiration to their children?
Also Read:: What are the 5 traits of a healthy family?
22) In-Laws Should Be FAIR With Both Their Son And DILS
I have literally seen MILS blaming their DILS for careless behaviour of their son.
If the son doesn’t leave the eaten plate on the sink, the DIL is blamed.
If the son forgets to take his ID card to the office, the DIL is blamed
If the son decides to lunch in the office, the DIL is accused of not cooking properly.
When MILS could call a spade a spade when it comes to their DILS, why don’t they apply the same rule to their son? Why do they safeguard their son all the time?
I feel it is high time that MILS take a fair approach towards both their son and DILS instead of making the DILS responsible for everything!
23) In Laws Should Respect The Decisions Of Their Son And DILS
Most in-laws assume that they have the authority and rights to control their son and DILS as they desire.
That way, they fail to accept it when the latter make their own decisions. As grown-ups, should sons and DILS still hang around their elders for approval?
I know of an old and highly chauvinistic father, who still directs the running of his family. His son and DIL are in their early forties, still they are restricted to even buy a cupboard for the house. How long do you think such things would work?
Be it making career-related decisions OR children-related decisions, in-laws should restrict themselves to just providing suggestions as elders – Let their children get enough exposure to the world – they are not kids anymore!
24) In-Laws Should Not Trigger Approval-Seeking Behaviour In Their DILS
A lot of inhibitions rule the minds of most DILS, especially when they are newly married.
What if my in-laws don’t like the way I cook?
What if my in-laws don’t like me wearing this dress?
When in-laws encourage and appreciate their DILS then and there, they don’t just improve the latter’s confidence but also nullify their external validation seeking behaviour.
I am sure this will come useful to many DILS out there!
Also Read:: 11 Key Reasons Daughters In Law Should Stop Seeking Approval
25) In Laws Shouldn’t Torment Their DILS In The Name Of Conception
Conception is a subject privy to the husband and wife duo. But in India, it is not so.
Most in-laws pressurise their DILS around conception as soon as they are married; as though DILS are baby-generating machines.
When in-laws change this attitude of theirs, a lot of stress that goes into the son and DILS could be prevented, the very cause of infertility in most couples these days!
Let the married couples decide their course of action as far as conception is concerned – Of course, elderly advice is reasonable as long as it doesn’t turn into a headache for the couples!
26) In Laws Should Stop Comparing Their DILS To Their Own Daughters
One of common problems that plagues society is the way most MILS compare their DILS to their daughters.
“My daughter would have helped me had she been here”
“My daughter never used to visit me like you visit your parents”
“My daughter is a champion at home management”
“My daughter is very responsible unlike you”
Ok, may I, as a DIL ask all the MILS out there, “Why aren’t you as caring and gentle as my mother?”
Let me take back my question as I don’t want comparison to rule the families.
Are all fingers of the same length? Is one human being like the other? Then why do ridiculous comparisons like these make a headway in society?
27) In Laws Should Stop Complaining Their DILS
Most Indian DILS are taken for granted for sure because every word and behaviour of theirs is carefully monitored by their in-laws.
When they wake up a little late in the morning, it is a problem for their in-laws.
When they make the tamarind gravy a little spicy, challenging the taste-buds of their in-laws, they are criticised.
All these pointless little things are burgeoned to make life a hell for the DILS. I feel such ruthless things should come to an end in this society and I sincerely pray for it!
28) In Laws Should Stop Bad Mouthing Their DILS
One of the most prevalent activities in society today is the way most in-laws bad-mouth their DILS with outsiders.
“She never listens to our words”
“She has drawn our son to her side”
It is even more frustrating when in-laws make it a point to have grousing sessions about their DILS with their own daughters OR their insensitive relatives.
If in-laws personally face issues with their DILS and son, why don’t they take an initiative to sort out their differences directly with them?
When situations at home are made public, it only deters the health of the family. Is that even desirable?
In Laws Should Express Their Ideas Openly To Their DILS
A lot of familial conflicts could be avoided if in-laws choose to directly communicate their problems with their DILS.
Why should in-laws hesitate to directly approach their DILS when their concerns are genuine enough?
Don’t you think this should change?
29) Let In-Laws See Their DILS As Significant Members Of Their Families
Don’t you think DILS should offer their point of view on family-related decisions?
Considering there is a discussion going on around taking a housing loan. As a DIL, in such cases, you should be able to offer your opinion on the subject. Isn’t it?
In case your spouse is the one who is taking the loan, remember you have every right to offer your point of view.
And if you have any apprehensions regarding the same, you could very well turn down the proposal; this has to be respected by every member in your family seriously.
In-laws should see that their DILS are a major part of their families; that is why their opinions MATTER too!
30) In Laws Shouldn’t See Any Problem If DILS Want To Take Care Of Their Parents As Well
No matter what, children need to be grateful to their parents; that is why, it is important for women to take care of their ailing parents.
When most in-laws are super-ready to encourage their DILS to badge their parents’ properties, why aren’t they happy when their DILS declare that they want to take care of their parents?
What about parents with only female children? Who is supposed to look after them if not their daughters?
I seriously aspire to a day when parents move in with their daughters and sons-in-law without any hesitation; of course with the undue support of their counterparts!
In Laws Should Encourage Their DILS To Take Care Of Their Parents
Unlike the old times, I want to see in-laws encouraging their DILS to take care of their parents.
“Right from raising you up, giving you education, to getting you married, your parents have done a lot for you. Never ever give up on them. You must be their strength and pillar of support. Go, be a super-daughter to your parents”
How would you feel if you hear this from your in-laws?
Wouldn’t that be an emboldening move from their end? Also, don’t you think this is a new perspective on in laws?
31) In Laws Could Say A Lot Of Nice Things To Their DILS
There exists numerous things that in-laws could say to their DILS to make them feel happy and comfortable.
I have written a blog exclusively on 16 Nice Things To Say To Your Daughter-in-Law, which might be of help to you. You could take a look at it here.
Words can create magic and I am sure, talking a few sweet words with the DILS will go a long way in fortifying the relationship in-laws share with the former. Don’t you think so?
32) In Laws Should Not Stop Their DILS From Visiting Their Parents
Every woman has the right to visit their parents. Just because they are married, neither do they lose their rights over their parents nor vice versa.
That is why, I aspire to see in-laws encouraging their DILS to visit their parents and let their DILS visit their parents without any restrictions.
33) In Laws Should Motivate Their DILS To Support Their Parents Financially
As responsible daughters, every woman should support their parents financially.
From giving education, good up-bringing, to getting them married, parents leave their daughters indebted to them without any doubt.
Having spent their lifetime raising their daughters, don’t the former deserve the least tribute from the latter?
As a DIL myself, I aspire for a day where in-laws stay supportive of their DILS, helping them lead an independent, respectable, and lovable life they truly deserve!
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